Advice by Chuck and Jae

Seven-Year-Old Stepfamily is Still Struggling. What Can I Do?

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Reader writes:  I have been a custodial stepmom for seven years. I thought it would get easier with time. My husband's ex continues to control him. She seems to come before me. She is a very difficult woman. This is the reason their relationship didn't work. How can I hold onto strength to keep our family together?

Chuck replies:  You are to be admired for hanging in there as a custodial stepparent for all these years. It's not an easy job under any circumstances. It's even harder when you don't have the cooperation (or appreciation) of the biological parents. As to how to maintain your strength to keep the family together, you will have to continue to rely on your inner resources (emotional and spiritual) and your support system. Additionally, you might need some outside help in improving communication between you and your husband. That could help resolve some of the issues you have with his relationship with his ex-wife.



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